HOLY JAMZ
Look not every man on his own things, but every man also on the things of others.
Philippians 2:4 KJV

First off let us understand what selfishness is and how it reflects in people.
All selfish people display a very uncaring attitude and a strong “Me first” trait. They are only concerned about "self".

A very common trait which all selfish and prideful people possess is that they always put themselves, wants and their needs on the forefront and in some instances can care less about anyone else or even pretend or appear that they care about another person which in fact is just a lie. They only give heed to their own priorities, their own goals and in the process would not think of anyone else, not even about those who might be really in much more need than them.

When it comes to getting their needs and wants met and their work done, they would turn a deaf ear to the necessities of others or take advantage of situations for personal gain that would only benefit themselves.

But whoso hath this world's good, and seeth his brother have need, and shutteth up his bowels of compassion from him, how dwelleth the love of God in him?
1 John 3:17 KJV

A selfish person would view others only as a means to get what they want. They have a "gotta have" tunnel vision which starts from and leads to themselves and their personal needs alone.

For men shall be lovers of their own selves, covetous, boasters, proud, blasphemers, disobedient to parents, unthankful, unholy, Without natural affection, trucebreakers, false accusers, incontinent, fierce, despisers of those that are good, Traitors, heady, high-minded, lovers of pleasures more than lovers of God;
2 Timothy 3:2-4 KJV

• Another trait which selfish people show is being manipulative, hustling, scheming and plotting most of the times.
Selfish people have a great desire to control situations and people and are unwilling to reach compromises with others. To get their own way they would down cast others and put down anybody’s reputation to benefit their own reputation. Go behind another person's back for selfish gain.

For all seek their own, not the things which are Jesus Christ's.
Philippians 2:21 KJV

We then that are strong ought to bear the infirmities of the weak, and not to please ourselves. Let every one of us please his neighbour for his good to edification. For even Christ pleased not himself; but, as it is written, The reproaches of them that reproached thee fell on me.
Romans 15:1-3 KJV

They would never think of sacrificing anything for anybody and in some cases they do do it sometimes they would expect a lot in return. They feel it is their right to receive from others but never feel obliged to return anything. Selfish people behave in this manner because they don’t know how to balance giving with taking. Jesus always said it is better to give then to receive. When you give with a giving heart did you know Jesus will bless you with far more?

I have shewed you all things, how that so labouring ye ought to support the weak, and to remember the words of the Lord Jesus, how he said, It is more blessed to give than to receive.
Acts 20:35 KJV

He that giveth unto the poor shall not lack: but he that hideth his eyes shall have many a curse.
Proverbs 28:27 KJV

But to do good and to communicate forget not: for with such sacrifices God is well pleased.
Hebrews 13:16 KJV

Negative traits towards everything makes them bad team players as they always try to pull down others with their remarks, actions or suggestions. Their word or comments boast on themselves only.

They find it hard to motivate and inspire other people because they themselves lack motivation and the drive to look ahead in their own life. This characteristic makes them unpopular in a team and a misfit. They try to fit in but they're more of an outcast. They try to draw attention by using certain situations and in some situations will even work a hustle to get what they want at the expense of others.
For where envying and strife is, there is confusion and every evil work.
James 3:16 KJV

Charge them that are rich in this world, that they be not highminded, nor trust in uncertain riches, but in the living God, who giveth us richly all things to enjoy; That they do good, that they be rich in good works, ready to distribute, willing to communicate; Laying up in store for themselves a good foundation against the time to come, that they may lay hold on eternal life.
1 Timothy 6:17-19 KJV

• A selfish person is highly self centered and self obsessed.
This makes them see or hear no one else. They become bad listeners and give little or no consideration to what others have to say. They may act like they are listening but in all actuality they are not. They are inconsiderate and have little or no room for compassion. They would cut off conversations and bring the focus on themselves.
But unto them that are contentious, and do not obey the truth, but obey unrighteousness, indignation and wrath,
Romans 2:8 KJV

It becomes their earnest desire to be seen and heard more than anyone else making them oblivious to the opinions, suggestions and advices of others. All the conversations they indulge in pertain and turn back to themselves. They want all the focus and attention.
Looking at these traits and characteristics of selfish people possess, one thing becomes obvious that selfish people do not need your contempt. You surely have to keep yourself shielded from their negativist traits because it can harm you but you don’t need to run from them. One thing is you must Pray for them. You can love them even from a distance and pray they seek help.

All of us are selfish to some extent, but when the traits and characteristics go beyond control they make us selfish down to the core and some continue in that nature because unfortunately that is who their character is, the type of person the are.
We have to understand the characteristic of selfishness in people, recognize those individuals, know what Gods word says regarding selfishness. And if you are one who has an issue with selfishness know how to overcome the Characteristic trait according to God's word and apply it to your life.

And he said to them all, If any man will come after me, let him deny himself, and take up his cross daily, and follow me.
Luke 9:23 KJV
But my God shall supply all your need according to his riches in glory by Christ Jesus.
Philippians 4:19 KJV

Jesus said unto him, If thou wilt be perfect, go and sell that thou hast, and give to the poor, and thou shalt have treasure in heaven: and come and follow me.
Matthew 19:21 KJV

Remember Jesus died so we can live for HIM and not for ourselves so we will have eternal life with him.

And that he died for all, that they which live should not henceforth live unto themselves, but unto him which died for them, and rose again.
2 Corinthians 5:15 KJV
May you be blessed and continue in God's great word for knowledge and understanding.
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